So many of the women I know today want to pursue more fulfilling and rewarding lives. They dream about being somewhere else, professionally, within their family setting, financially or geographically, but when it comes to taking action, they freeze.
They hide behind a philosophy of “someday” that allows them to manipulate time. “I can do it, but just not today. I’ll do it when…” and they use these excuses to stay in their comfort zones and their current reality of being stuck in this ‘undefined and illusionary’ limbo. Somewhere does not exist, and Someday never comes, although they keep hoping it does. The truth is that their ‘someday’ dreams and ambitions are disempowering them. On top of that, this adds to their feelings of discontent, demotivation, and disappointment.
Life throws us curve balls all the time, and you may not get your chance tomorrow! The truth is that right now is all you’ve got. Regularly reflecting on all you’re grateful for allows you to slow down and enjoy the ride. Furthermore, learning to live life fully and living in the moment are vital life skills to develop to help you create exciting career opportunities and a life you’ll love with ease.
It is healthy to want more from life, but it is also required to be truly fulfilled and knowing where you are is critical in getting where you want to be. Using someday as an excuse to soften your problems will not create long-term career success and life fulfillment. With this blog, I hope to inspire you to be honest with yourself and stop making excuses only to make yourself feel better. A little tough love from me can be very useful as it will at least move you to action. There is always something you can do right now to turn your dreams and ambitions into reality. There is always one small step you can take.
One of the greatest strengths you have as a woman is resourcefulness. This means that you have all you need to achieve whatever you desire and can take action with exactly what you’ve got and from where you are. You do not have to wait for “someday when”, “when I am…” or “when the kids are a bit older…” before you take action on your dreams and ambitions. The smallest action taken towards your dreams can make all the difference as it immediately makes your idea real and smothers “someday” because you used your will to take charge and step up in your life consciously.
I want you to realize that the purpose of pursuing your dreams or ambitions is not just in making them happen but even more so in the journey of creating them. You do not travel to reach a destination but for the purpose of travelling. Whatever dream or goal you are pursuing, you will probably spend more time pursuing it than actually achieving it. The process is where the true fulfilment comes from, and the actual experience is what makes you become something instead of accumulating something. If you can’t be happy and grateful without your goal, the chances are you won’t be satisfied and thankful for it, either.
Live in the present, but know where you are going. Be right here and celebrate and capture the magical moments of your life. Hold on to them as the treasures you take with you into your glorious future. Life is not just lived in the moment but also created in the moment. Now is the best time to design the next ten years of your life. Let your thoughts and knowledge lead you into action, even if it means taking baby steps. Move confidently in your chosen direction, and don’t get seduced by the widespread belief that someday things will come your way or your luck will change. You are the creator of your own exciting life and meaningful career. It all starts with immense gratitude for everything you already have, exactly where you are right now. One of the greatest privileges you have in life is that you can start right now with exactly what you’ve got to create anything you desire.
Living in a place called Somewhere really won’t serve you long term, although it might feel good as a short-term escape or excuse. Having to constantly lie to yourself that you will act on your heartfelt dreams and ambitions someday when x, y or z is just right will only create an unnecessary burden. When you turn your “someday” philosophy into a “same day” philosophy, you can start to adopt the mindset where you take action on your ideas immediately with exactly what you’ve got and exactly where you are.
What someday and somewhere really comes down to is that you falsely believe that what you crave is out of your reach. This belief, in turn, makes you think that you are not in control of your life but are waiting for something else, somewhere else before you can take control, take action, and step up in your life.