Fulfillment and happiness in life is related to how well you are living in alignment with what’s truly important to you in the way you live and work. Do your decisions emerge from the essence of who you are (your values)—not from who you think you should be?
Ignoring your personal values will complicate your life while if you recognize their existence and importance you’ll find that it’s a lot easier to guide you in your decision making for your day to day life.
Your values may change over time as you go through different phases in life, therefore build in some reflection time for yourself, especially at times where you feel stressed, frustrated or unhappy and determine where you are crossing your boundaries.
If you want to explore if your current way of life aligns with your core values, go ahead and take this quiz to see how well you are living a life that is of your own making!
Please answer the questions below with True or False
- I have spent time thinking about what’s important to me, I know what I stand for and I can articulate those things easily to others.
- While I have been influenced by my parents, teachers, society and other outside forces, I have not simply adopted their values and beliefs. My own values and beliefs come from deep inside.
- I am not easily swayed by others’ opinions. I know my own mind.
- In order to remain open and flexible, I am willing to re-examine my opinions and beliefs to determine whether something is still true for me. I am interested in other points of view.
- My spouse/partner is a good match for me. We share in a way that pleases me and have an ideal amount of separate space. We don’t have to agree on everything.
- I chose my occupation, or choose to remain in it, because it most closely utilizes my skills, strengths and passions.
- I also choose my friends. I don’t go along with a friendship that doesn’t feel right just because that person pursued me.
- Any spirituality I practice feeds my soul.
- I have aspirations. I spend time thinking about them and taking action toward those that are most important to me.
- Anyone looking at my life from the outside would see what I value.
- When I or a family member is sick, I listen to the appropriate health care provider. If the advice doesn’t feel right, I get a second opinion.
- On the rare occasion when I let someone break a boundary or persuade me to do something I don’t want to do, as soon as I’m aware of it, I take steps to stop and correct the situation.
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If you answered false more often than true, you may wish to clarify what is truly important to you and then find ways to bring your life into greater alignment with those values.
The following open questions, can help you explore what your personal values are:
- What would you stand up and fight for?
- Think about the times when you have been really happy? What values were being met?
- If you could only take 3 THINGS into difficult, possibly dangerous situation, which are the things they absolutely must have?
When answering these questions keep on asking yourself: “ What’s special about that” until you get to your core value!
Defining and creating your portable career will become a lot easier once you have a clear road map of your life purpose and personal values. Without those your foundation will be rocky, the direction of your career aimless and your chances of personal success and long term fulfillment will be minimal.