When you feel uninspired, unfulfilled at work or with life in general, what do you notice happens with your confidence?
Confidence easily freefalls into a downward spiral when you are unhappy. Disappointment so easily leads to the “not good enough” feeling because we take it personally. We feel like we are directly responsible for our unhappiness.
But you know what’s great? We are also directly responsible for our happiness. It’s no one’s responsibility but our own to make ourselves happy. We choose how things affect us, which means that we can choose to focus on positive things to lift our spirits and give our confidence that much-needed boost in the right direction.
Stop the confidence freefall by making a life inventory of all the successes and achievements you’ve had in your lifetime.
It’s easy to pick out some of the bigger things: educational goals, moving to a new city, making friends, having a family, finding your dream home, etc. But don’t forget about the smaller things too. Maybe you made your friends laugh at a recent gathering. Maybe you got an “I love you” from a special someone. Maybe someone appreciated your help with a project. Every one of those is a win!
Explore the events that have happened where you’ve wowed everyone. Look at changes you initiated that had an impact. Before you know it, you will have a full sheet of paper covering the achievements you thought of just off the top of your head.
As days go by and your confidence rises, keep up this list as new things pop into your head. In fact, as you notice your wins happening, jot them down in a journal dedicated to your achievements. As you build this story about yourself, review it, and embrace your successes. You are achieving, even if it’s something small. You are definitely enough!
As a coach I love exploring these stories and helping people actually own them. I love to help people transform their CVs in such a way that it is a true reflection of who they are and the difference they are out there to make.
If you need help establishing these successes, book a free Uplift your Life / Career session with me. I can’t wait to work together so we can bring your confidence to a whole new level!